Most of us find it hard to find balance in life. Between work and family and love and side hustles and more, it’s hard to lose sight of what you really want and what makes you happiest. Ruby Warrington, founder of The Numinous and author of Material Girl, Mystical World, has tried to help women across the globe find that balance. The Numinous is an a cosmic lifestyle platform that bridges the gap between the mystical and the mainstream to bring methods like meditation, astrology, and more, into our daily lives. How does she find her inner peace with all her hustle? Let’s find out…
You’ve worked for some pretty high-profile publications. What led you to want to write your own book?
I always loved words and writing, and dreamed of being an author as a kid. This led to a career in magazine journalism, but when I tried writing fiction it never came out right – so I gave up on any ideas about writing a book. Then, a year after I launched my passion project, The Numinous, an editor at Harper Collins approached me to see if I’d be interested in producing a book based on the content. So in a way, by focusing my energy on creating something that spoke to my soul, I manifested it.
How do you use intention setting and meditation in your daily life?
I practice transcendental meditation (TM) for 20 minutes every morning, as soon as I wake up. I’m so used to it now, I feel unprepared to meet my day if I ever have to skip it! I repeat with an afternoon session whenever I can, as a way to beat the 4 PM dip and cultivate more energy for my evening activities. As for intention setting, having a regular meditation practice has taught me to be super aware of my thoughts – not least how each and every thought I choose to “follow” becomes an intention for how I can expect my day, my projects, and my relationships to play out.
What are some initial steps we all can take to find, and live our most authentic lives?
I love astrology as a tool for this kind of existential self-inquiry and personal development, and so I always recommend for people to get a birth chart reading with an experienced astrologer. We can learn so much about ourselves, meaning our unique strengths, weaknesses, gifts, and challenges, from an in-depth study of our chart. This will also reveal where we may have been suppressing our “true” self, and are perhaps confused or afraid when it comes to living authentically.
What does authenticity mean to you?
It means seeking to answer what I see as the 3 Big Questions:
- Who am I?
- What am I here to give?
- And what do I need on an emotional level to be able to show up fully in the world?
The position of our Sun, Rising and Moon signs in astrology can help answer these. Living authentically also means aligning our thoughts, words and actions, so that are living with integrity.
Running my own multi-faceted start-up requires huge reserves of energy, motivation, tenacity, optimism, and drive, and thought truly listening to what my body needs I’ve learned that I thrive on regularity. This means I tend to wake, eat, write, workout, socialize and sleep at the same times every day – a practice in itself, and one which can require a healthy respect for what I call “higher selfishness” when it comes to prioritizing my needs over the demands of others.
What is the best part about your career?
The variety and the fact that I don’t have to work on anything or with anyone I’m not 100 per cent inspired by. If I ever find myself getting overly stressed or anxious about something work-related, it helps to remind myself that since I’m the one in charge, it’s always in my power to just walk away at any point.
How do you find balance between work and personal life in your day to day?
I try to have one day a week when I’m not looking at emails, but besides that I don’t! I’m always “on” – which I consistently remind myself is the price I pay of making my passion into my work. I often remind myself that it’s a privilege to be able to make a living doing what I love, and to be able to create a daily schedule that allows my “work” and “life” to merge, versus having to be on somebody else’s clock.
How does social media and the online world affect this balance?
UGH! Instagram is perhaps my biggest vice, and since it’s a vital part of my business / brand, it’s so easy to justify spending way too much time on it. I’m increasingly aware of this however, specifically how habitual using it has become – and awareness is the first step towards healing from any addiction. I used to be the same with email, but managed to break that habit by hiring an assistant to manage my inbox for me.
What is your favorite quote?
“Do not ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive” – Howard Thurman.
What advice would you give to your 16-year-old self?
Don’t worry about fitting in. It’s the things that make you uniquely you that are what make you cool!