Everyone has their own dating rules, relationship “checklist” and love pitfalls, but when is it time to buck tradition and just do what works for you? Apparently the time is now! Match.com recently integrated a new dating strategy into their already popular matchmaking website to offer a service unlike any other: Three Day Rule. With date coaching, personal styling, pre-dating potential mates, and an amazing staff of matchmakers; Three Day Rule puts a human touch back into your dating life (but they do have online dating too!). We asked founder Talia Goldstein and matchmaker Catherine Harper to get their ultimate guide to dating in this new era.
The “Three Day Rule” comes from the cult movie Swingers, and basically says that a guy should wait three days to call a girl he likes after he gets her number, their first date etc. But in a world of Tinder, online dating, Twitter subtweets and more, the “three day rule” is becoming an antiquated concept, and dating services need to update their services. Lukcily The Three Day Rule is an answer to that need! This is a truly premium matchmaking service now available, in conjunction with Match.com, in New York, Chicago, Los Angeles and San Francisco. Founder Talia Goldstein, who previously worked as a producer at the E! Network, says she came up with the idea after watching friends and coworkers struggle to fit dating into their hectic schedules. Her system helps take some of the stress and work out of the dating game, thanks to experts including matchmaker Catherine Harper.
Here are their three reasons The Three Day Rule is going to be your new dating best friend:
IT’S MEANT TO BE PAINLESS
“We do all of the work for you,” Goldstein promises. “While you are at work and spending time at the gym and with friends, we are interviewing matches for you and pre-dating them so you only meet matches that are actually right for you.”
They are actually your personal dating concierge, with world-class matchmakers who hand-select, vet, and personally meet each of your matches before making formal introductions to you. Not to mention, they also have an online dating site with other relationship-oriented singles who have to be pre-screened by matchmakers, and regularly host dating events for their singles.
THEIR MATCHMAKERS ARE WORKING HARD FOR YOUR HEART
Matchmakers like Harper are literally the heart of this company, pre-dating and analyzing matches before you even meet someone! But they of course use a little bit of hardware to make sure they’re getting just more than an emotional or personality connection.
“Not only do we have super intelligent matchmakers that come from all walks of life who excel in their fields, we also have back-end technology that is cutting edge with facial recognition software that can even predict who in our database people will be attracted to,” Harper explains. “Our database includes more than 15,000 people & our new partnership with Match.com expands our reach to millions.”
AND YES, YOU GET A PHOTOSHOOT
In addition to sociologists who will advise you on your online dating profile, you can also set up a photoshoot with their glam squad and photographers, who will make you look your best for your dating profile, or any social media feed!
Harper enthuses, “It’s like having your own celebrity team at your fingertips! It will still be your style and your image but it will just be the best version of that!”
And for a quick guide, here are their top dating do’s and don’ts for men and women:
- Do: Give nice guys a shot.
- Do: Listen and ask questions
- Don’t: Wait around for a guy to approach you. Take charge! Get that date #1
- Don’t: Talk about past relationships on the first date
- Don’t: Pretend to be someone you are not
- Do: Be chivalrous. Most guys are not chivalrous these days, and you will earn so many points if you are.
- Do: Dress well and be on your best behavior without being fake
- Do: Try something out of you comfort zone
- Don’t: Don’t do dinner on the first date. Just grab a quick drink. If you like the girl, go for diner on date #2. If you don’t follow this rule, you will dread dating and so will your wallet