You, in the white cocktail dress! This isn’t your big day.
You, squatting in the aisle with your iPhone! You realize you’re ruining the professional pictures, right?
Um, you know we can’t just make room for your date, right? This isn’t a potluck.
Weddings come with all kinds of rules, and while some are fairly obvious (like not wearing white unless you’re the bride), others aren’t so clear cut or well known (like the protocol on whether or not you can post pics of your college roomie walking down the aisle before she’s even reached the altar). To save us all from messing up this wedding season, we’ve tapped etiquette expert Myka Meier of Beaumont Etiquette to share her tips for being on your best behavior.
Always arrive at least 10 minutes early for a wedding ceremony. “However, never arrive early to a wedding reception, as the host / wedding planner is probably preparing last minute touches and will be caught off guard. The best time to arrive to a reception is 10 minutes post the actual arrival time listed on the invitation.”
Dress to impress. “Make sure you know the dress code at both the wedding and reception. There is nothing worse than showing up to a black tie wedding in a short skirt.”
Wait until you are asked to be seated for the meal. “There is most likely a seating chart, which you should look for upon entreating the wedding reception.”
Absolutely no phones at the reception table. “Keep them in your pockets or handbags on silent and only take them out if you wish to take a photo.”
Do not post photos on social media of the wedding unless you’re certain the bride and groom are okay with it. “If there is a hashtag on the welcome bag or website, you’re probably in the clear…however make sure to ask someone from the bridal party what the bride & groom’s wishes are otherwise.”
Always bring (or send) a gift of some sort if you have been invited to a wedding. “Check the wedding website or invitations for registry details. If you can not attend the wedding but have been invited, a thoughtful gift is still in order, as the bridge and groom invited you to the most important day of their lives and value you as a friend or family member.”
Never ask if you can have a plus one if you were not invited with a guest... “It’s considered rude and will put unfair pressure on the bride and groom to invite another guest which they did not allocate for.”
Want to learn more? Myka will be in Boston through April 8th to offer her etiquette classes, including her course based on Kate Middlleton, “The Duchess Effect.” For more information or to book a session, contact firstname.lastname@example.org.